Been searching for an answer to what the difference is between a forced orgasm and an edging orgasm? Take a look at this short and sweet introductory article – with a hot toy recommendation to boot!
Ever been turned on by the idea of a forced orgasm? You’re not alone. Here we discuss forced orgasms and edging, and how you can take both to the next level.
What is a forced orgasm?
It’s a part of forced orgasm kink where one partner’s orgasm is controlled by the other. In this case, what differentiates it from edging is that forced orgasms depend on the submissive partner’s ability to hold off on orgasming for as long as possible.
Another approach is acting as though the submissive partner doesn’t want to come, while the dominant partner’s mission is to bring that orgasm out of them by using all the tools at their disposal.
What is edging?
On the other hand, edging relies on the dominant partner’s ability to keep the submissive partner constantly teetering on the very edge of orgasm for as long as possible. For some, this sounds like terrible torture. To others, though, it seems like the perfect foreplay. It all depends on your definition of pleasure.
Edging can also be a great way to prolong the duration of intercourse or self-pleasure. Whether you’re doing it solo or with a partner, keep in mind that the longer you teeter at the edge, the more mindblowing the orgasm.
Edging and overstimulation
If edging is the art of keeping someone teetering on the brink of release, overstimulation is what happens when you don’t stop there. The two are often intertwined. Edging builds up unbearable tension, while overstimulation pushes past the peak, making every sensation feel impossibly intense.
For those who crave surrender, forced edging is where things get truly exciting. The dominant partner takes control, expertly guiding the submissive to the edge of orgasm, only to deny them at the last second again and again. It’s an exquisite form of torment, a game of power and restraint where the reward is sweeter than ever.
But if edging is about authority, being forced to cum is about the complete loss of control. Instead of keeping release just out of reach, the dominant partner forces their submissive past the point of no return, pushing them into wave after wave of involuntary pleasure.
It’s the ultimate act of forced orgasm kink, where pleasure turns into something uncontrollable, leaving the body trembling and overstimulated.
The aftermath? Shaky legs, a spent body, and a mind swimming in the haze of overstimulation.
This delicate balance of teasing, denial, and overwhelming sensation can be achieved through a combination of patience, technique, and the right tools.
A powerful wand massager, a strategically placed vibrator, or even a well-timed whisper can turn a slow build-up into a full-on erotic meltdown.
Whether you prefer the slow burn of edging or the relentless pleasure of overstimulation, one thing ties them both together: they will leave you breathless.
What do I need to try forced orgasms?
There is one very important thing you need to do before you start playing with a partner – you need to talk about limits.
And yes, the conversation about limits extends beyond the famed safe word.
On top of safe words, make sure to discuss:
- How far you’re willing to go and for how long
- What type of language would you both be comfortable with
- What kind of tools you’re willing to bring into the scene
After the conversation takes place and there are no grey areas, it’s time to pick out your accessories. Shopping and selecting these accessories can create a tantalizing build-up and act as the beginning step to build tension. These accessories can include sex toys, blindfolds, handcuffs, rope… whatever you’re both comfortable with.
Perfect Sex Toys For Forced Orgasms
Sex toys can amplify so many sexual activities. With so many on the market and such a range to choose from, you’re presented with the chance to find something that mirrors your version of pleasure.
Whether you’re on the hunt for the best anal sex toys, something discreet or something that can join you in the tub, there’s something out there just waiting for you.
So, what exactly are the best sex toys for forced orgasms?
The Massage Wand
The one thing that forced orgasms and edging have in common is that both activities are perfectly complemented by a variety of sex toys. That said, one sex toy stands out in particular – the massage wand.
While the massage wand is still marketed as an actual back massager (talk about two birds!), the wand’s deep and rumbly vibrations feel fantastic on your shoulders but even better elsewhere.
LELO’s Smart Wand (Large)
If you have an eye for design and agree with us that sex toys can indeed be beautiful, have a look at LELO’s Smart Wand Large.
Other than smooth lines and soft silicone, LELO’s wand is also very practical with its curved handle (perfect for solo play) and SenseTouch tech that lets the pressure you (or your partner/s) exert on your body determine the strength of the vibrations.
The beauty of using a wand massager lies in the ease with which it can be operated, even in the most heated of moments. In the beginning, try taking it slowly, especially if you haven’t tried a wand before.
Some prefer to use it over their underwear to avoid overstimulation, others underwater (which you absolutely have to try – LELO’s wand is fully waterproof).
As your session gets more and more heated, you can turn up the power and give your partner the forced orgasm of their life without exerting too much pressure on their body, or keep it at the low to medium level, circling all their sweet spots, but touching none.
Final Thoughts
Whether you’re more tickled by forced orgasms or by edging, neither of those two activities will be truly pleasurable without an open and honest conversation with your partner.
Learn more about each other and what excites you. That way you’ll have even more weapons of pleasure in your toe-curling arsenal
Written by the Killing Kittens team.